Relationship Issues or Relationship Magic?

Many intimate relationships start out fun and exciting, then after a honeymoon period, slowly deteriorate (become less fulfilling and more challenging) until either they dissolve or settle into a pattern that is workable but rarely passionate.

Without anyone being at fault, the challenge of two different people with different needs and histories sharing a life and trying to meet those needs together creates inevitable conflict. If not properly resolved, hurt and resentment build and sides polarize. On top of this, as we work to build the closeness and security we long for, the earlier excitement of the unknown is often lost.
Now add the negative patterns in relationships (jealousy, attachment, control, fear,
loss of self, etc) that most of us were programmed with, coupled with inadequate communication skills and tools for addressing such issues, and it’s not hard to see why most relationships fall short of our desires for them.

Is it possible to have a relationship that is both secure and exciting…where comfort and passion continue to grow together….where both people’s needs get fully met…where real honesty, leading to real intimacy is safe…and where issues that arise are embraced as opportunities for growth and result in ever-evolving closeness?
Yes!

The goal of this two day workshop is to share information, tools, and insights to empower you in having a greater understanding of yourself and others, and more capacity for a deeply fulfilling relationship and life.
It will be a very fun and engaging weekend, with a lot of unique and powerful information. We hope to see you there!

Date: Sat and Sun, March 27th-28th
Time: 1:00-6:00pm both days
Location: 617 Neptune Ave, Encinitas, Ca. 92024
Suggested Donation: $175/person, $300/couple

To reserve a space, contact Daniel at 619-788-1681 or geosol114@yahoo.com

Some topics we will cover are:

Communication:
How to communicate your wants, needs, and feelings in ways that engender your partner’s interest and empathy rather than their defensiveness
How to listen and ask questions in ways that help your partner feel safe and open to share with you
How to disarm and
transform negative communication (anger, criticism, sarcasm, etc) by hearing the unspoken needs behind it and addressing them
Getting past sides: seeing through your partner’s eyes….understanding and valuing both people’s desires and feelings, and finding agreements and strategies that are mutually fulfilling
Non-reactivity, giving the benefit of the doubt, and seeking to understand first
Seeing them for them and not taking their reality personally
Deep honesty and loving what is real

Self:
Understanding your emotions–where they come from and how to functionally relate with them
Understanding how your state affects how you see your partner
The end of blame–taking responsibility for your own happiness
Reconciling independence and inter-dependence; overcoming co-dependence
Differentiating between personal and interpersonal
needs
Identifying and working with your own patterns that cause difficulty in relationships
Consciously directing your life in line with your deepest values and desires
Self-wholeness as the basis for togetherness
Embracing yourself and sharing who you really are and what you really want

Compatibility:
Getting clear on what you really want in a relationship and in life (to see if desires are compatible)
Alignment of deep values
Fitting together well
How similar vs. how different should we be, and in what ways
Deal breakers
Lifestyle factors
Respect and admiration
Supporting each other’s path and evolution
Having complimentary skills and qualities

Understanding Attraction:
Newness, diversity and excitement
Security and comfort
Reconciling conflicting desires
What
is chemistry, how developable is it, can it last, and how important is it?
Programmed attraction: what I “should” like
Attraction to the forbidden and shadow desires
Attraction to qualities we want more of in our lives
Balancing closeness and space–the needs for intimacy and autonomy
Fantasies: where they come from, what they are about, and how to relate to them
What happens when you repress your desires
Attraction to others while in a relationship: communication, agreements, processing, etc
Getting clear on where an attraction is coming from (biology, programming, the shadow, real compatibility, etc), when it is worth pursuing and how, what you can learn from it, etc
Why attraction often fades and how to rekindle and strengthen attraction in a long-term relationship

Sex:
The biology of sex
Differences between men and
women
Getting over inhibitions and opening up to new experiences
How to communicate about sex with your partner
Reconciling differences in desire
Overcoming past conditioning and beliefs
Sex in and out of relationships
Monogamy, open relationships, infidelity, jealousy, etc
Keeping a long term relationship sexy
Making it safe to explore, share, and be vulnerable
Sex and emotions
Sex and spirituality
Defining functional morality and ethics

The proper care of a relationship:
Identifying what your relationship needs to stay healthy, happy, and growing…and how to provide those things
Identifying things that are (potentially) damaging to your relationship and resolving them
Investment and Return on Investment

Common areas of difficulty and how to find
solutions:
Money
Sex
Kids/parenting
Family and friends
Shared responsibilities
Values: religion, politics, etc
Differences in lifestyle and interests

A relationship’s full potential:
Romance and creative expressions of love
Fun and playfulness
Deep intimacy and real connection
Supporting each other’s personal development, purpose, and life path
Nurturing and care-taking
Affection and sweetness
Passion, adventure, and aliveness
Supporting each other’s freedom and growth
An accelerator for evolution
Growing together ongoingly